My dad wrote the following exactly 1 month before he passed away in April of 2013.
Recovering from an illness has given me so much time to think and pray about my life! What kind of legacy am I leaving my family and those around me? What am I doing to help share the good news of Jesus to so many hurting people who have lost hope? A legacy has to start within me first! God has created each of us for a purpose and there are seasons in our life where we go through lessons to shape us into the person He has created us to be. You know the saying “No pain no gain”? This is true in all aspects of my life and I know now that much of the pain I have gone through in my life has shaped me into the man I am today. The questions I ask myself … Do I love my wife Patty the way Jesus loves the church? This is my first and most important responsibility here on earth … to love her and cherish her. This year, we will celebrate our 25th anniversary and I’m just now becoming that man … If I don’t love and cherish her, then what good am I anywhere else? Secondly, how am I loving our two grown kids, Alex and Becca? Am I an encourager in their lives or am I still trying to do everything for them? Have I learned to just love them and allow God to shape their lives the way He has mine? And how about my friends? What kind of a support am I to them? But the two most important areas that I must focus on this year is my relationship with Jesus and my relationship with myself! Much easier said then done … It’s so easy, in the business of life, to not spend quality time with Jesus or myself. And trust me when I say that the stresses of life can make a person very ill and can even kill. I have been learning, through my recovery, that life is so much more precious and valuable then even thought about! I have been forced to slow down since the end of January and as I have recovered, I have had much time to think about my past and realize that I am so blessed to still be here. How much of my life have I wasted because of my own selfishness? I pray that each day I will continue to grow in these areas and that the love of Jesus will flow through me to my wife, my kids, someday my grand kids and to all those my life comes in contact with. It’s not too late for me to leave a legacy in all of these areas so that when I stand before an AWESOME and HOLY God, I will hear Him say “Well done …. Well done”!!!